In closing off this week’s discussion on the Bible and homosexuality, I would like to focus in on the topic of love.
People who claim to be both Christian and homosexual usually appeal to the perception that they are “in love” in order to defend their lifestyles. As we have seen, this is used even to say that passages of Scripture do not apply to their situation. But, if I may ask the question, is it really love?
The Bible says that everything about people is corrupt from birth. The mind, emotions, conscience and will are all corrupted by the sinful nature. Therefore, while one is still in the sinful nature and not born-again, the perception of even love is corrupted. Before I was a Christian I experienced many relationships, some of which I claimed I was “in love.” When I was 19 years old I met the Lord Jesus Christ and he changed everything about my life. I repented of all my sin and he made me a new creation. Now I am married, and let me tell you, the love I experience with my husband, being born-again in Christ, is nothing like what I thought love was before I was saved. To use an illustration, it’s like the difference between powdered milk and whole milk. If you’ve never tasted whole milk and have always had powdered milk, you don’t know the difference and you don’t know that what you are tasting is any different than other milk. But once you’ve tasted the whole milk, you realize what the powdered was and is really made of, and that the whole is the real stuff.
In his book Choosing God’s Best, Dr. Don Rauniker uses the term “counterfeit oneness” to describe what happens in a relationship that is not right with God nor ordained by him. It may feel like love, but in the end it is not the real thing, only a counterfeit. And it can cause a lot of damage to the people once it ends. It’s like gluing two pieces of paper together, letting the glue dry, and then trying to separate them. Pieces of each will be permanently stuck to the other, and usually you can’t separate without tearing the pages apart.
Before I was a Christian I thought I was in love. I do not doubt that many people in same-sex relationships believe they too are in love. But apart from Christ all things in the human soul are corrupt, including the perception of emotion. I know that someone living an openly homosexual lifestyle is not in Christ because that life is not in line with what the Word of God says is a born-again new creation in Christ. Repentance, turning away from sin, is absent. And usually there is no repentance because there is a denial of sin in the first place; that person does not believe what they are doing is wrong; or they have simply rationalized it in order to appease the conscience. But again even the conscience is corrupt apart from Christ.
Homosexuality is not a “sexual orientation,” as if that makes it alright in God’s sight. As we have been examining over this week, it is a sin.
If the Holy Spirit is convicting you of this sin, do not ignore it. That conviction is God drawing you near to himself, wanting you to repent, turn away completely from you sin, taking upon yourself everything that Christ has done to deliver you from all sin and death. He want to give you new life in Christ Jesus, complete freedom from the old self. It can be done. The Lord Jesus Christ said it himself, “It is finished.”