10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
I know that this chapter can be intimidating. This is the biblical standard of a godly wife, and the bar is high. But just as living a pure and holy Christian life is not unattainable, I don’t think this is as unattainable as people make it out to be. The reason for both of these truths is found in 2 Peter 1:3-4: “His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.”
So what does this godly wife look like:
1. She is submissive and obedient. She does not harm her husband (in word or in deed) but is good in all she does. She does not shame him, and as a result others see that he is a godly man.
2. She takes care of her family and those under her care. She feeds them and clothes them well.
3. She knows how to make things that her household needs. She also knows how to sell these things for a profit and invest her earnings wisely in things that will bring a return useful to her household.
4. She is a hard and eager worker, and does not waste time.
5. She is kind in helping the needy
6. She is noble and strong in character, and wise in words
7. She loves and fears God
8. Although she is not self-seeking, she is still praised by her husband and children and even the leaders of the city know that she is a godly woman.